I am looking for authors, traditionally or self published, to write guest posts on writing or publishing tips to post on my blog. Contact me: readingurbanfantasy(at)yahoo(dot)com

Monday, November 19, 2012

Guest Post & Giveaway: After Dark by Emi Gayle (Blog Tour)


Today we have the lovely Emi Gayle, author of the YA Paranormal book After Dark (Book #1 of the 19th Year Series). Emi has provided us with a great guest post about how she handles negative criticism. And don't forget to enter the international giveaway below for a chance to win either an After Dark ebook or bookmark, first winner's choice, two winners all together.



How to handle negative criticism.

So this is a hugely hot topic among writers of all kinds and bloggers. Do I have some epiphany to share? Some method by which I won’t cry or lash out when a bad review comes in?

Not really.

But I do have a method.

First off, I never respond to anything that’s seemingly negative. Sometimes, that’s even in a 3* review! Can you believe it? Some people love a book, but ‘not enough’ and responding can be seen as negative. This is very true of 2* and 1* books which most everyone associates with not liking it. So while I’ll read it, I won’t respond. It’s not about the reviewer, it’s about me.

I don’t want someone to think I’m responding to the criticism. I want reviewers and readers to know I love hearing from them, but negatives do hurt. That’s just part of the subjective nature of a book. Some will love it. Some will like it. Some won’t want anything to do with a book.

Second, as an author, it’s my job to remember I didn’t write this book so everyone would love it. I wrote what was in my head, in my heart and the story I wanted to tell. Sometimes, that doesn’t mesh with a reader and that’s OK! Yes, it is! Really! It’s okay if a reader doesn’t like a book. That’s why reviews are opinions. We don’t all like the same cars or ice cream or wine, do we? Nope. Books are like that too.

Third, if there’s a big bad review (as my opinion might declare) I need to take the time to digest or process or forget or forgive or whatever and none of that needs to be public fodder. Nope. That’s for me to do with my friends and family. Let them build up the blown confidence and carry on, because ... see point 2 and ... see point 1 if I were to follow up.

So yes, I’ve shed tears over reviews (some good and some bad) but I will never, ever fault someone for their criticism. Here I must use the old phrase, ‘to each his own’ and let it go.

That’s how I handle it (or rather my alter-ego does) and how I will handle it as reviews come in for After Dark.

Of course my hope is that everyone will love the story, but I know not everyone will. I just need to be grateful that I’m able to have the book published at all.

Summary
What eighteen year old Mac Thorne doesn’t know will probably kill her.

In exactly eight months, five days, three hours and thirteen minutes, Mac has to choose what she’ll be for the rest of her life.

She has no choice but to pick. As a Changeling, it’s her birthright. To Mac, it’s a birthchore. Like going to school with humans, interacting with humans, and pretending to be human during the pesky daylight hours.

Once darkness descends, Mac can change into any supernatural form that exists — which makes her as happy as she can be. That is, until Winn Thomas, the biggest geek in her senior class figures out there’s more to what hides in the dark than most are willing to acknowledge.

In this first of the 19th Year Trilogy, Winn might know more about Mac than even she does, and that knowledge could end their lives, unless Mac ensures the powers-that-be have no choice but to keep him around. ~ Add on Goodreads
Links:
Purchase: Amazon / Barnes & Noble / Book Depository



One winner will receive the ebook of After Dark and the other will win a bookmark. The first winner will get to decide. This giveaway is international.
 
a Rafflecopter giveaway
Author Bio
Emi Gayle just wants to be young again. She lives vicariously through her youthful characters, while simultaneously acting as chief-Mom to her teenaged son and searching for a way to keep her two daughters from ever reaching the dreaded teen years.

Ironically, those years were some of Emi's favorite times. She met the man of her dreams at 14, was engaged to him at 19, married him at 20 and she's still in love with him to this day. She'll never forget what it was like to fall in love at such a young age — emotions she wants everyone to feel.

36 comments:

  1. Great guest post! Everyone doesn't like everything but I'm sure it is hard to read negative reviews. It is probably best not to respond since everyone has the right to like what they like. To each their own indeed! I love shifters so I am looking forward to this book. Thanks for the giveaway!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I can't even imagine how sad it is to get a neg review but I respect authors who take it well.

      Delete
  2. I've read about this book before and just fell in love with the concept of the story at first sight! S2

    Thank you for the giveaway <333

    ReplyDelete
  3. Thanks for the guest post, Emi. I know the bad hurts, but it's good that you then remember you didn't only write it to be loved, but because you had to get it off your chest and onto paper. I know how that feels. ;)
    Thank you for the giveaway, and I'm really looking forward to reading this! It's been on my tbr way before today. =)

    ReplyDelete
  4. This post is fabulous! I'm sure negative reviews hurt. I'm not a writer, but I have participated in artwork critiques, etc. and I know it sucks and it hurts to have your work criticized and blown to pieces.. especially if it's something close to your heart. It's just something we have to learn to deal with and understand. Everyone has different opinions and preferences; we can't please them all!

    I know that as a reader, I really appreciate it when authors don't comment on any of my reviews below 4 stars. Why? Because to be honest, it's awkward. I don't like giving negative ratings and I feel bad when I do. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I know that authors probably have read my negative ratings, but I don't like knowing for 100% certainty that they read it. It makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I feel the same way. It's awkward to get a comment from an author who I gave a poor review to. I hate to do it but some books just don't work for everyone.

      Delete
  5. Great advice to writers, Emi. Great giveaway. The book sounds amazing!

    ReplyDelete
  6. Thanks for sharing the great post :) Both author and book are new to me. The book seems like it'll be an interesting and good read.

    Honesty can be and is an awkward feeling.. (Not every book is going to be a woohoo five star read)As reader and reviewer for some books, if I notice a book that is off (I have not had my coffee, this may not be the correct word to use for that I apologize) I message wherever I got the book from and then not at the bottom of the review I note it. Then it is noted why the low stars..

    What I fathomly can't understand is why someone would give 5 stars to a book with negative review, make no sense.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks for stopping by and for your insightful input. :)

      Delete
  7. This sounds great. Imagine having to make a choice like that?!

    ReplyDelete
  8. I won't be entering the Giveaway as I have read the book but, I just wanted to let you all know this book is Brrrrrilliant it is so unique to all the stuff out and around at the moment. It's written so well too. I love, love, loved it!

    ReplyDelete
  9. Thanks, ya'll for having me! I can't believe how many have already entered the giveaway and all these comments are just so humbling! And Jeanz - add blush inducing. Thank you so much for the support and kindness. What a great Monday!

    ReplyDelete
  10. This book sounds good. I can't wait to pick it up. Thanks for holding the giveaway. I have found quite a few books because of you and this blog.

    ReplyDelete
  11. Oooh...I've been wanting to read this one. The idea of the changeling sounds very intriguing. Great giveaway and post as always :)

    ReplyDelete
  12. I totally agree, it's one persons opinion and I never respond. After Dark looks good thanks so much for sharing!

    ReplyDelete
  13. Great post! After Dark looks like a great book! I hope to read it soon! Thanks for the chance to win!

    ReplyDelete
  14. I would like to thank you so much for a fantastic book &/or bookmark giveaway! The blog post was fantastic and i was facinated to find out more about Emi Gayle's book After Dark, that sounds truly origonal and a really interesting storyline. I am a huge fan of this particular genre so i just have to add it to my to-read list! Thank you x

    Email: lfountain1(at)hotmail(dot)co(dot)uk
    GFC Follower: lfountain1

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. This sounds like a great book for you. Good luck!

      Delete
  15. great post. sounds like you have a great outlook on the whole review process. sometimes the book is just a better fit for one person than another.

    ReplyDelete
  16. After Dark sounds like a very intriguing book.. I would love to give the book a shot! :)
    The guest post is very honest and I adore Ms. Emi for responding with such honesty. I am an avid reader and it's true that I do not like every book I read but honestly, it also kinda hurts for me. I don't know if this is true for some readers but for me, it sucks big time when I do not like a book.. And I know it hurts even more for the author/s. But as they say one can't please everyone.

    Thanks Ms. Emi for that very insightful post! Not everyone can do what you do, :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I agree, it makes me so sad when I don't like a book. It pains me even more to write a bad review.

      Delete
  17. I think Emi has a great outlook on book reviews. I have heard some people criticize book asking silly things like why didn't they do this and why they did that. I look at every book as a unique adventure and love to see where they take me :) Especially in the paranormal genre :) I love them all and wish I had more time to read them all :)

    Jennifer thank you for all the introductions to these awesome authors and books and for the chance to win them for free :)

    Cassandra

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you for stopping by with such a great comment

      Delete
  18. I believe part of being a good author is taking the bad with the good. I would like to thank you for letting us know about the wonderful giveaways.

    ReplyDelete

I appreciate all comments and read every one of them. I also make sure to visit your site as well if you have one. Thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings.